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You might know this feeling: a day that was perfectly normal. Not too much, not too loud, nothing particularly exciting. And yet it ends with a child who simply can’t settle. Who cries, screams, writhes and you no longer know what else to do. That’s not bad parenting. That’s a full bucket.

What’s behind it?

Our nervous system constantly processes stimuli from the outside world: sounds, light, touch, movement, social interactions. In adults, this mostly runs in the background. In babies and young children, this system is still developing. It first has to learn to filter, prioritize, and process stimuli.

Picture a bucket. Every stimulus throughout the day fills it a little more. At some point it’s full and then the smallest drop is enough to make it overflow. Not because the child is difficult. But because their system is currently working at the edge of its capacity.

Why growth phases fill the bucket faster

What many people don’t realize: growth is stressful for the bod, in the best possible sense, but stressful nonetheless.

During intense growth phases, an enormous amount is happening in the body simultaneously. Bones stretch, muscles adapt, the nervous system forms new connections, teeth push through, motor milestones are being processed. All of this costs energy and takes up capacity in the nervous system.

During these phases, the bucket hasn’t gotten smaller. But it fills up faster. Children who normally regulate well suddenly reach their limits. They become more irritable, sleep less well, need more closeness and that is completely normal.

What you might notice

  • Your child suddenly sleeps worse, even though nothing has changed.
  • They react oversensitively to sounds, light, or touch.
  • They are harder to calm than usual.
  • They need more physical contact and closeness.
  • After outings or a lot of activity, a “meltdown” follows.

What can help

Regulation difficulties aren’t something you simply have to wait out. And they’re not a sign that something is fundamentally wrong.

Sometimes a child’s nervous system just needs a gentle impulse from outside to find its way back to its own equilibrium.

An important key in this is the vagus nerve. The main nerve of the parasympathetic nervous system, the system responsible for rest, recovery, and regulation. In babies and young children, it is still developing and particularly sensitive. Birth-related tension in the area of the skull base, where the vagus nerve exits the brain, can impair its function and make it harder for a child to find a calm, regulated state. This shows up in exactly the way you’d expect: a child who seemingly can’t switch off. Who is hard to settle. Who reacts strongly to the smallest stimuli.

Through craniosacral techniques, reflexology, and osteopathic approaches the vagus nerve can be specifically supported, the nervous system calmed, and the capacity for self-regulation strengthened.

What I experience again and again in my practice: when a child’s body is under less tension, so much changes. Sleep becomes calmer. Mood more stable. And the bucket no longer overflows quite so quickly.

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